How to Manage the Stress From NOT Being Accepted
Unacceptance (soulless acceptance?!!) leads to a domino effect of unwarranted, unprecedented, unforgiving challenges. Believe it or not, we all experience rejection somewhere on our journey. However, no one encounters the same obstacles as anybody else. Because of this, we must validate ourselves and acknowledge the role of our individuation. In other words, justifying someone’s pain by saying everybody goes through the same thing exasperates the preexisting issue. Again, how to manage the stress from not being accepted? Well, we must take a look at the person in the mirror.
Blaming others for our reactions is a typical response. We yearn to avenge the transgressions committed against us. Taking the pressure off our shoulders seems to help us not deal with the accumulating stress. Of course, this prolongs the inevitable and augurs a failure of emotional regulation. As a sufferer of depression and emotional distress, this article possesses an anecdotal understanding of not being accepted. Yet, we must be ourselves regardless of how other people treat us. Stepping into our light not only frees us but encourages others to embrace and emanate their truth.
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Yes, we must respect our boundaries. Nonetheless, specific circumstances demand attention, assertion, and articulation. For instance, turning a blind eye to racial discrimination, homo/bi/transphobia, and the ramifications of colonization are unacceptable. Being tolerant of our differences should mark the starting point of finding a happy medium. No matter how ugly the reality, scrutinizing our faults and perceptions is necessary to attain a fair, balanced and, equal society. Essentially, it doesn’t matter if we realize we are a part of the problem — it matters whether we are willing to change or not.
One of the main reasons countless people aren’t accepted concerns this rampant, vicious cycle. When people reject us, they refuse to accept themselves. The lack of acceptance is intrinsically-motivated. Individuals only give what they have. Therefore, this understanding explains why our world ceases to encourage people to be prideful about who they are. When nonacceptance continues to impress the subconscious, the person feels depressed, alienated, unloved, worthless, abnormal, excluded, and suicidal — this paints the narrative that authenticity stimulates fear, repression, and a copious amount of frowns.
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As such, the quality of being authentic is understatedly invaluable. Not accepting people for who they are is infuriating. In my opinion, everyone is a person who deserves access to the birthright of fair and equal treatment. Stripping people from their inborn privilege to express themselves is reprobate and depraved. I digress, but I believe we should start incorporating more gender-neutral pronouns in our default understanding of a person. Assuming someone is a binary gender is offensive and a threat to modernity. Then again, asking an individual their pronouns accepts and affirms them, empowering a narrative to embark.
Moreover, we should think bisexual or pansexual first. Prematurely labeling someone as gay or straight because of tone, body language, or appearance is bi/pan/homophobic. Also, this induces intense, pronounced feelings of shame, disappointment, and self-deprecation. Unfortunately, too many individuals believe the bi+ spectrum doesn’t exist. Because of this, a disproportionate amount of bi/pansexuals feel erased, ignored, and unaccepted by mainstream society. Of course, feeling invalidated, marginalized, and downplayed by at least one community spells cataclysmic damage and fate.
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That said, I am a guy who believes men and women and otherwise are who they say they are — genitalia doesn’t determine gender, only how a person self-identifies. Also, one gender or sexuality isn’t better than the others since nothing’s inherently wrong with what we like and how we express our fluidity. Because of the pandemic of injustice, misunderstanding, and bigotry, society subjects too many innocent bystanders to discrimination, ridicule, or violence. We should accept other people and advocate for their rights. We are all impacted by the shift of balance.
Karma is not a *****; karma is the balance of scales. No matter what we do, ramifications ensue. Being mindful of how we contribute to society is essential to creating a world promoting humane values. Also, as an Aquarian Stellium and Honorary Aquarius Scorpio Sun (11th house), I believe in the importance of how our hopes, dreams, and wishes manifest. We must leave behind a society better than the one we inherited. One of the most significant attributes of feeling accepted is creating, expanding, and founding a community of like-minded, receptive, and caring people.
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Also, being open to modernity, societal advancement, humanitarianism, freedom, eclectics, progression, and novelty is in our best interest. We must embrace the alien, foreign, immigrant, extraterrestrial, and so-called weird attributes of our being, or zodiac — this is what makes us human and equal of recognition and praise. We can’t continue to oppress people for their sociocultural differences and must combat and eradicate the system of imbalance and inequality. How American we are should not determine whether or not we are a threat to civilization — anybody raises potential questions.
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More often than not, the enemy lies within state lines. Interestingly enough, we tend to look outside of ourselves when the answers we seek are too close to home. Contrary to popular belief, we know we possess more strength together. Anything dividing us is out of the realm of acceptance. Accepting others requires us to embrace every part of ourselves. Akin to the process of meditation, what excavates isn’t necessarily good or bad; it is whatever it reveals itself to be. Go with it! The enemy of the state encompasses all self-sabotaging, cognitive dissonance, and internalized phobia-based behaviors.
Anyways, an immigrant is just as much a person as a non-immigrant. Also, most Americans are immigrants — the only people who have a say in who we let in the border are Native Americans. Stealing, raping, and displacing the body and identity of our ancestors is a heinous, atrocious crime. We must avenge the sins of our past by acknowledging the gravest truths, maximizing the historical accuracy we teach in social studies and media, and allowing the divine order to restore our world’s peace. Sans hard evidence, we can neither confirm our DNA nor ethnicity, culturally or genetically.
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Of course, skin pigment doesn’t tell the whole story. Matter of factly, we shouldn’t judge a book by their cover but by the content of their character (Martin Luther King Jr.) as more meets the eye than appearances. For example, someone might seem white, Caucasian, or European only to discover they are eight percent West Nigerian. What happens to them? If they are racist or xenophobic, how can they legitimately persist with their bigoted, exclusionary rants, paradigms, and ideologies? What are the ramifications of these findings, and how will this affect our descendants? Aren’t we worth more than skin-deep?
I digress, but everything is fluid. No matter how we identify, fluidity resides within all the shapes, forms, and ways rigidity manifests (i.e., cisgender people experience gender-nonconforming/non-binary/trans periods, straight people express queerer, gayer, fruiter moments). Not admitting our oscillation is the absence of acceptance, understanding, nuance, and the validation of our ultimate identity (or identities). We might prefer one gender or sexuality, but it’s rare for anyone to be exclusive nowadays. Essentially, finding unity within diversity serves us the best and represents the whole of humanity.
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As such, we must navigate the balance between fighting every battle and choosing our feuds wisely, succumbing to the ills of the world, and transcending the veil of persecution. We can’t save everyone, but we must start with ourselves. Role modeling this behavior to others exemplifies the antithesis of nonacceptance. Before we can have a community of allies and advocates, we must be willing to give this to ourselves. We can’t be strangers to putting ourselves first, aligning with our souls, hearts, and spirits. The way we treat ourselves must not depend on the favor of the bandwagon appeal.
In other words, we must love ourselves when the world conserves and withholds love and affection. Being love and acceptance allows us to be self-reliant and sufficient. That said, dismantling co-dependent habits is easier said than done. Indeed, we don’t need validation from our communities, but we can’t condone invalidation as we can do bad all by ourselves. The last thing we deserve is more of the same rejection, invisibility, and gaslighting. By the way, meditation isn’t escapism as much as it is one of the routes to transcend the persistent illusion of separation to ground ourselves in a self-assured being.
How to Manage the Stress From NOT Being Accepted: Better Mind!!
Therefore, concerning how to manage the stress from not being accepted, giving an honest assessment of our lives is an excellent first step. We are alone together. Being mindful of the sum of our parts and our whole identity takes us mighty far. In the end, we must find the best combination to suit our needs. Whether we reach out to our PCP, get ourselves diagnosed, disclose issues with loved ones, speak to hotline specialists, or meditate, we must stay safe and secure. When a person doesn’t accept us, we must remember the following: we are the acceptance, fairness, and love we demand.