How to stop anxiety in life and let go
As a person (Moon in Capricorn, First House) who has struggled with mental health for half of their life, I can relate to the overwhelming intensity of life. I understand enough is enough is an understatement in regard to how to stop anxiety in life. Sometimes it feels like you are too numb for your own good. Other times you get the impression that the anxiety is too much to bear. Without a doubt, this is a spectrum and thus goes both ways. In my experience, anxiety comes from trying to move at full blast twenty-four seven — okay, you got me, that was a hyperbole.This, of course, is not mindful living in the slightest. Yet, it is mindful to be aware of this fact. It is mindful to note all the things that no longer positively serves. However, the ultimatum that rears its ugly head all but heightens the unparalleled, formidable anxiety: the pain of holding on and the perceivable greater pain of letting go.
At face value, it sounds like a double negative or double jeopardy. There are repercussions regardless what you decide. It seems as though you cannot make up your mind. Perhaps you are at war between what you want and what everyone expects out of you and you’re about to crack.
Throw the Anchor off the Boat
With this in mind, you are not obligated to make a decision right off the bat. But, at the end of the day, you are going to have to face the music. One way or another. It is a matter of embracing how you feel and allowing that to inform you. Allow your anxiety to reprieve you. And you do this by not living in denial. It is much easier said than done but you’ll feel much better once you do. And provided that you have the anchor on your back, throwing the anchor off the boat is in your best interest.However, this does not mean you have to succumb to being negligent, lazy, or irresponsible. Quite the contrary, it is a confirmation to live your best life and take charge of what once was, only better. After all, you deserve the freedom of letting go of the unwelcome burdens embedded in life.
Also, you don’t owe the world an explanation for who you are. Your existence alone justifies everything about you. No matter what opportunities come your way, you are the most valuable player. Or perhaps invaluable.
If you need to take a mental health day, week, month, etc., DO that. Try your best not to worry about missed opportunities. Yet, if you are a workaholic perfectionist like me, that might be real hard. Perhaps you have built this image of being the dependable, smart, over-achieving friend or colleague who fears failure isn’t an option. Perhaps you feel saying no is a resounding step back for your career and personal advancement/development. Maybe, just maybe, you don’t want to put your reputation on the line by not biting off more than you can chew. Yet, you don’t have to overcompensate.
Pace and brace yourself
You are doing great. You are living proof that you are more than enough. I can say with certainty that you deserve an anxiety-free life that enriches your being. That said, letting go is no park breeze. It can feel like you are about to lose everything. However, this is just the ego begging on their knees. Really, you have nothing to lose, yet everything to gain. And, if you do lose anything, you needed to gain something. Something far more invaluable than the short and long term ramifications of anxiety. Essentially, this is peace of mind and sobriety.That’s what matters more than anything. The truth is, and perhaps we’ve all been there, you cannot please everyone. What is the value of putting everyone above yourself if you are sacrificing your own happiness? Why merely exist in a chasm of darkness and anxiety when you could come out of the tunnel to a meadow of light and contentment? Isn’t that what you deserve?
Moreover, it is more about taking off, not adding, more layers. If less is more, then more subtraction adds up to less anxiety. Again, the power of walking away is a power beyond mere words or footsteps. It is the ability to meditate of self-preservation. In other words, prioritizing your health in all disciplines. However, it is elusive to not care what other people think about you. Matter of factly, the mere thought of what people might say can add fuel to the fire. So, how do you put out the fire? How do you stop the burning?
Let it burn
(Now obviously if this was real life I wouldn’t advise that as it would go against the grain of common sense). Nonetheless, I am saying allow yourself to feel anxious, apprehensive, and addled by the fear of the unknown. Indeed, there is no shame in owning your emotions and carving your slice of life into something greater than it started.
Because of this, imagine how much stress and anxiety you could eradicate if you didn’t have other people yapping in your ear. If you found some magical way to stop internalizing other people’s bitter critical dialogue as your own inner critic?
How would you feel? How much influence do you think the anchor would have? And finally, why would this be crucial concerning how to stop anxiety in your life?
Well, who can you depend on? Family? Friends? Online licensed professionals? God/a higher power?
I suppose the answer depends. Yet, dependency is never a good thing. For instance, you might be in a serious emotional crisis and no one even brothers to pick up the phone. Or they do, and you tell them you are having challenges with your mental health, and somehow they still put some mundane, transient activity above your aforementioned struggle and by extension your internal condition. Naturally, this will make you feel like crap to put it nicely. Maybe even undeserving of love from those closest to you.
You Come First
So, if you are ever in a predicament in which self-preservation must win, self-preserve at all costs. If that includes calling hotlines, reaching out to a therapist, or getting yourself admitted, then do so. It is always the bravest, most perceptive and emotionally intelligent people who can open up about their inner anxieties, frustrations, and demons. A blessing in disguise, your struggles don’t define you. They empower you to be a beacon of light, an angel of pure interconnection and enlightenment.It is for this reason alone that you must be self-reliant. Yes, there is always the potential of finding like minds. But, don’t hold your breath. There is a reason why the mantra, prepare for the worst, hope for the best holds a lot of clout as you can imagine.
I digress, but ever since the moon is in Scorpio, now is the time to tap into deep emotions, psychoanalyze your mission, and activate your psychic/spiritual abilities like none other. It is the divine time for massive healing and transformation. Let this energy renew, rejuvenate, and recuperate your new and improved version and mood.
Anyways, the journey on how to stop anxiety in your life, is all about you and consequently your view. Your thoughts, feelings, words, actions, and beliefs are everything. And, yet you are worth more than the sum total and then some. As such, you are whole, worthy, divine, and complete.
More importantly, if you didn’t know (ahem, feel) this already, you are loved. You are so loved beyond measure. You are love and peace. I wouldn’t even say you are the most valuable player in your life. But rather, you are the most invaluable player in this game called life. And, in all spheres, you more than deserve an anxiety, anchor-free life.
Illumination Phase
In the end, you an abundant, prosperous, wealthy, healthy, and vibrant being. And like the moon itself the answer to how to stop anxiety in your life lies within. Don’t force these revelations to come to you. Let them enter your orbit of awareness. Everything works in divine timing for a reason. Allow other people to frown, laugh, and misunderstand you. That is their lost, not yours. You were born this way — beautiful, spectacular, and amazing “’cause he made you perfect baby.” In like manner, every breakdown is an opportune celebration to breakthrough. How else can you allow the light shine through the dungeon if not bricks collapsing from the rather volatile structure? Why not take the leap of faith?You already made it to the top of the rocky mountain. Ignore the chatter beneath you. In many ways, you are the anchor. Yet you have the equipment and foundation necessary to land safely on the ground. Let the anxiety drop…
Indeed, you are the sun you have been waiting for. Illumination is here to stay. Meditate on rescuing yourself like the prince or princess you are and thus being your best interest. Let go. After all, did you know, in some circumstances, it’s the deals you walk away from that make you rich, not the other way around?